Sunday, May 2, 2021

Menopause and Me

 It's 1am and I am up after a few hours' sleep and a bad dream, waking up covered in sweat. 

Thoughts raced through my head about a school assignment that is due today (or tomorrow, however you want to look at it) that I didn't complete. That I didn't even start. That's for a class that is important to me – it's being guest taught by a former editor-in-chief of National Geographic and esteemed photojournalist, and obviously this is a person from whom I have a lot to learn from, and who has been so great so far. I can't even get my shit together for that. Also, I didn't get any financial aid this quarter and I think I have hit my limit, which means that I can't continue school anymore, probably not for a long while and that kind of makes me sad too.

I ended up talking to my partner, who was still up, and crying uncontrollably for a few minutes. I didn't feel good in any way. Not physically or mentally or emotionally. I'm so grateful for him in times like these. He suggested, "Menopause, right? Because this is not like you." And yes, oh yeah. I always forget that I am in it. Brain fog, loss of focus, pain all over my body. Feelings of hopelessness, etc. I looked it up: Menopause symptoms. What a joke! They still don't really shit about it. Here, check what the NIH has to say. Basically, they don't know. Maddening.

So here I am writing this instead of the paper I should be working on for tomorrow. It felt needed. 

How are things going, you ask? (Maybe you ask. I could be wrong about that.) Things are... going. I have... an awareness. I haven't logged food every day but wager a guess that I am probably eating within my target zone in general. I haven't started walking or yoga yet. I have been weaning myself off of regular soda, though. Onto fruit juices/drinks, onto sparkling water. Onto plain old water, which I love but I also love soda so it's not super easy. I'm trying to decide if it's the fizz I love so much or the sugar. Probably both. Anyway, I need a break from soda regardless so it's not forever, it's not a big deal.

I think I will get on the scale once or twice a week. I'm down a couple pounds today and will look again on Thursday. Not even making a huge effort gets some results.

I don't know, man. I just want to stop feeling so bad all the time.


3 comments:

  1. I am elated that you are blogging again. I missed your realistic approach to slowly making changes as you lean towards a healthier lifestyle without eliminating foods that we all enjoy from time-to-time. You put pen to paper and have the gift of writing down challenges that many of us face so that we do not fear that we are "alone". You hit the nail on the head when you used the word a-w-a-r-e-n-e-s-s. That is such a huge step to take and you should be proud of yourself for that alone. Take it slow and be kind to yourself. So many times we forget about self compassion as we try to meet the never ending demands life throws our way. You are a blessing.

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  2. Hi there! I just ran across your blog because I typed in a search for tennis for fat people! :). I read a few of your posts. We are such a similar place in our lives / journey. I'm 48 and probably at least perimenopausal. I need to go to the doc to get officially checked out. I'm 5'6" and weigh around 320. I've never been this large / felt this tired / ached this much in my entire life. I desperately NEED to make changes to stop this. I'm worried that I will just keep getting bigger and bigger and bigger with no end in sight. I can't seem to find anything that I can start and stick to. I like the idea of your approach but when I have tried slower and less restrictive approaches before, the bad habits just slowly creep back in. DEEP SIGH. Anyway, thanks so much for your blog. I'm going to read more and see if I think you're approach might work for me.

    Also, have you considered that you might have ADHD? I was just recently diagnosed and it explains so much about my life! And, I had no idea there was such a strong connection between ADHD and obesity! Anyway, just wanted to throw that out there. It is helping me to look at my life through a different lens and giving me some hope.

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